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Monday, August 18, 2003
I'm a deadbeat expectant father

There, I admit it. I was gone for a month. I promised more posting, but like all deadbeats, I didn't follow through.


But I've been guilted and shamed back into action. I have a baby on the way, and it needs an expectant father! A mother isn't enough. She needs massages, and "attention", and must be appeased as that insufferable wonderful nesting instinct kicks in!

And she needs me to chronicle our hi-jinxs and foibles to the outside world! Otherwise the baby's gestation occurs in a vacuum. We are far too "21st Century" to let that happen. I won't let that happen!

So okay, I was busy. I've got two jobs and lots of travel, so this fell to a lesser priority in my greater scheme of things. But aside from that, I have to admit that I just had far less material to work with.

The first trimester was pure excitement, what with the vomiting and the anxiety and the "deer-in-headlight" feelings we had to work through.

But now, things are different. The baby isn't going through that much change anymore. Nothing like gills forming or tails appearing or anything cool like that. The baby is now just that -- a baby. And it's just getting bigger every day.

Elisa's anxieties have all but disappeared. She's now in "nesting" mode, which I'll discuss later, but this is far easier to deal with than

"My belly button isn't an 'outie' yet. Do you think the baby is okay?"
She's growing ever huge, but that's okay. It's pretty amazing to see. And now that she's got this creature maurading inside her womb, she knows it's doing okay. Nothing to fear anymore. And our baby is so active, it's obvious s/he is doing just fine.

But I'm back now for a couple of reasons. One is the aforementioned guilt -- many of you want updates again, and I want to provide them. This weblog, sillyness aside, is a great way to tell the world about our adventure. But, better than that, I have a lot of new material to work with.

The second trimester is essentially the calm before the storm. Things are now moving toward the end, and they are getting a lot more interesting. So you can start coming back. I promise to stop being such a deadbeat.

Otherwise the judge will garnish my wages and throw me back in the can (the real reason I hadn't posted in so long!).

by Kos | August 18, 2003 12:00 AM


glad you're back kos. has it been a month? wow...didn't notice how times fly...

Posted by: kanzaki on August 18, 2003 08:07 AM

The tone of these posts is so dramatically different from your dKos ones--which is entirely appropriate, of course, but it's fun to see the contrast. Welcome back from the depths of deadbeatdom. All is forgiven. ;)

Posted by: Leslie on August 18, 2003 10:39 AM

I've really enjoyed reading this, reminds me of so much that we went through just a couple of months ago.

Just makes me wish I'd started Jeyanth's blog before birth instead of at birth.

Posted by: Chris on August 18, 2003 09:36 PM

We are 3 1/2 months away from the supposed due date or 6 1/2 months into the pregnancy. This is
our first, so I have been keeping a Journal of sorts and I wondered if any other first time dads had done the same thing. I work in a library in downtown Portland, and I have been keeping people up to date on the progress of the little creature that has inhabited my wifes stomach. Someone mentioned your other daily blog, and so here I am! This is great! More first time dads should be doing this!!! We need a support group!!!!

Posted by: portlandcircer on January 28, 2004 01:55 PM
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